Day 7
Sometimes life seems to pull us in many different directions. Simplify. Avert crisis. Keep moving forward with the little regard to what you are 'supposed' to be doing, and do what you need to do.
The right choice isn't always the easy choice. Nor is it always the obvious choice, easy or otherwise. It has been my experience that, most often, there are many right decisions. Choose the one that best suits your situation and try not to hurt people along the way. There can not be any shame or blame in that. Harmless. Be gentle with other peoples hearts and your heart will be lighter and more open for it.
Keeping your relationships meaningful aids in making these decisions easier. If you truly care for someone else's feelings you will be more conscious of making decisions that can potentially harm a friendship. Making 100% logical decisions isn't always the way. Having said that, neither is making 100% emotional decisions. It is a mixture of both that that makes or breaks us.
I prefer the grey areas of life. Matters of the heart are not black and white. If they were, life would come with a rule book, or a guide of some sort. Wouldn't that make things so much easier?! An encyclopedia of all of lifes concerns, sorted by genre alphabetically. How to mend a broken heart: Section 6. Chapter 2.2.1 Section B. Paragraph 17-23. How to fall in love: Section 1: Chapter 1.2.6. Section A. Paragraphs 1 - 180. How to fall out of love: Section 2: Chapter 1.2.22. Sections A-Z. Paragraphs ALL. So simple. Yet, so much reading. How are we to pause the turbulence? All for the sake of simplicity. It wouldn't work. We are all unique, with unique (and sometimes bizarre) situations. Do our emotions sometimes get in the way? Sure. But sometimes, more often then not, so does logic.
So, dare I suggest, perhaps we use both? Our hearts and our heads should be on the same team. Or if opposing, at least willing to comprimise. Simple. Weigh your options. Keep your heart on your sleve. Stay open. Stay vulnerable. It's what separates us from the animals. That, and toilet paper. Keep your thoughts clear and rational. Speak with good intention. Better appreciate the words of others as they are spoken to you. Learn from people. They are learning from you.
Have a phat day!
Super XO
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Monday, August 30, 2010
Day 6...or something along those lines...
I have failed miserably at attempting to find the time to write here everyday. So let's change this whole program. I will find the time to write here when the mood strikes me. Okay? Okay. Good. Glad we have that settled.
I wish I could sit down with my younger self and tell this young girl what lies ahead. Let myself know that what seems to be a big deal, a great loss, a crisis in the moment, is just that. Only a moment. A small blip in time and space. I think it would have made some of lifes lessons easier to learn from. Instead of repeating the same silly mistakes, errors in judgement over and over again. It could have saved some hardship.
On the contrary, I also wish I could sit down with my 80 year old self and learn a thing or two that way. How will things work out? Who will I be? Where will I be? WHY?
Having said all that (I know this is seeming a bit confusing, hang in there), I wouldn't change a thing about my life. I have learned something from every obstacle I have encountered. I mean, that's the whole point right? Learn from each experience. Feel richer for having had it, move on. If we can learn the lesson we are meant to learn, there is nothing to regret.
But wouldn't we all like a little sneak preview into the future? I hate when people say, "...Nothing shocks me anymore..." What?? How is that possible?? No one has experienced EVERYTHING. There is no way to remove the shock value of some things in life. And most often, we wouldn't want to...I don't think. What if it backfired?? What if it made life so much harder?? Knowing exactly what lay ahead? Sometimes, good or bad, the unexpected can be our saving grace. Dealing with the unexpected is how we prove to ourselves that we can endure almost anything. Our own strength and endurance can restore our own faith in ourselves. It can also help to weed out the (for lack of a better word) assholes. Generally, during the absolute best of times, or duing the absolute worst of times, people tend to flash their true colours. Show us who they really are. No false impressions. No assumptions. No guess work. It's all there. Just laid out, plain as day, for us to see. Peopes reactions to other peoples crisis or overwhelming happiness can be quite telling. Again, lesson learned. No need to dwell on the ones who have left us disappointed. Mend. Feel. Heal. LEARN. Done. Move on.
I can only speak from experience. I only know what I have learned. I don't even know if you could call this advice but, it's the only advice I have. If you learn from each experience (good or bad), you can successfully live without regret. Regret is a cancer. Consuming our very being. So be done with it. Remove it. We will all break hearts. We will all have our hearts broken. We will all endure some kind of loss. We will all be lost at some point or another. And when we find our feet back steady on the ground, it should be with a lighter heart. A more forgiving and self accepting heart. One that has learned a few ways of the world.
Super XO
I have failed miserably at attempting to find the time to write here everyday. So let's change this whole program. I will find the time to write here when the mood strikes me. Okay? Okay. Good. Glad we have that settled.
I wish I could sit down with my younger self and tell this young girl what lies ahead. Let myself know that what seems to be a big deal, a great loss, a crisis in the moment, is just that. Only a moment. A small blip in time and space. I think it would have made some of lifes lessons easier to learn from. Instead of repeating the same silly mistakes, errors in judgement over and over again. It could have saved some hardship.
On the contrary, I also wish I could sit down with my 80 year old self and learn a thing or two that way. How will things work out? Who will I be? Where will I be? WHY?
Having said all that (I know this is seeming a bit confusing, hang in there), I wouldn't change a thing about my life. I have learned something from every obstacle I have encountered. I mean, that's the whole point right? Learn from each experience. Feel richer for having had it, move on. If we can learn the lesson we are meant to learn, there is nothing to regret.
But wouldn't we all like a little sneak preview into the future? I hate when people say, "...Nothing shocks me anymore..." What?? How is that possible?? No one has experienced EVERYTHING. There is no way to remove the shock value of some things in life. And most often, we wouldn't want to...I don't think. What if it backfired?? What if it made life so much harder?? Knowing exactly what lay ahead? Sometimes, good or bad, the unexpected can be our saving grace. Dealing with the unexpected is how we prove to ourselves that we can endure almost anything. Our own strength and endurance can restore our own faith in ourselves. It can also help to weed out the (for lack of a better word) assholes. Generally, during the absolute best of times, or duing the absolute worst of times, people tend to flash their true colours. Show us who they really are. No false impressions. No assumptions. No guess work. It's all there. Just laid out, plain as day, for us to see. Peopes reactions to other peoples crisis or overwhelming happiness can be quite telling. Again, lesson learned. No need to dwell on the ones who have left us disappointed. Mend. Feel. Heal. LEARN. Done. Move on.
I can only speak from experience. I only know what I have learned. I don't even know if you could call this advice but, it's the only advice I have. If you learn from each experience (good or bad), you can successfully live without regret. Regret is a cancer. Consuming our very being. So be done with it. Remove it. We will all break hearts. We will all have our hearts broken. We will all endure some kind of loss. We will all be lost at some point or another. And when we find our feet back steady on the ground, it should be with a lighter heart. A more forgiving and self accepting heart. One that has learned a few ways of the world.
Super XO
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
We will call this Day 5 (I am aware I have missed a few days)...
Is it just me?? Or are people just blatantly rude and/or demeaning for no particular reason?? People seem to be filled with such self righteousness that it has become an epidemic! Since when is it acceptable to be down right rude to those who surround you? Has it actually become socially acceptable or are we just desensitized to it?
It's not acceptable to me. It is not ok to be absolutely ungrateful and unaccepting of anothers compassion for understanding. We riddle off these absurdities to the only few who will actually listen and then wonder why they stop calling, emailing, texting, etc. Who would sincerely choose to be around such behaviour? You can do 1000 good things for these types of people, all you will get in return is their incessant demand for more! And yes, they will have the nerve to question why you have stopped coming around and calling. Well, here's the answer to that, 'you are a jerk'. Plain and simple.
They feel they have the right to speak their mind and any other ridiculous outbursts. Then they'll say that were just speaking the truth, telling it like it is. No. You weren't. You were just being selfish and angry and childish. Adults can speak the truth and express the way they are feeling in polite and admirable ways. I have seen it done many times. In fact, I do it myself. Everyday. Personally, I am much more apt to consider a persons words when they are said with respect and dignity. Demands and undignified, disrespectful remarks will get you very little of whatever it is that you are seeking.
To conclude today's rant and or grumbling, as the long lost (very lost) saying goes, treat people how you would like to be treated. Don't blame people for the turn your life has taken. Don't blame people for your boredom or for sanity. People can only add to your life if you are willing and accepting and gracious towards them. Thank them when they have helped you. People appreciate being appreciated.
Super XO.
Is it just me?? Or are people just blatantly rude and/or demeaning for no particular reason?? People seem to be filled with such self righteousness that it has become an epidemic! Since when is it acceptable to be down right rude to those who surround you? Has it actually become socially acceptable or are we just desensitized to it?
It's not acceptable to me. It is not ok to be absolutely ungrateful and unaccepting of anothers compassion for understanding. We riddle off these absurdities to the only few who will actually listen and then wonder why they stop calling, emailing, texting, etc. Who would sincerely choose to be around such behaviour? You can do 1000 good things for these types of people, all you will get in return is their incessant demand for more! And yes, they will have the nerve to question why you have stopped coming around and calling. Well, here's the answer to that, 'you are a jerk'. Plain and simple.
They feel they have the right to speak their mind and any other ridiculous outbursts. Then they'll say that were just speaking the truth, telling it like it is. No. You weren't. You were just being selfish and angry and childish. Adults can speak the truth and express the way they are feeling in polite and admirable ways. I have seen it done many times. In fact, I do it myself. Everyday. Personally, I am much more apt to consider a persons words when they are said with respect and dignity. Demands and undignified, disrespectful remarks will get you very little of whatever it is that you are seeking.
To conclude today's rant and or grumbling, as the long lost (very lost) saying goes, treat people how you would like to be treated. Don't blame people for the turn your life has taken. Don't blame people for your boredom or for sanity. People can only add to your life if you are willing and accepting and gracious towards them. Thank them when they have helped you. People appreciate being appreciated.
Super XO.
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